I saw a post yesterday on Instagram…someone very brilliant (@EmilyJoyRosen)…telling us to not worry about what other people think when it comes to our social media posts and our selfies…to trust ourselves and post away with our creative brilliance (or something like that) because other people will judge no matter what. And those judgments come from within and are not a reflection of who we are what we’re doing when we’re sharing or expressing ourselves in one way or another.
Then today, someone I admire was sharing with me what they thought of my business, my approach, my perspective and my talent. All of the things that I question within myself…(yes, here I am, on social media, launching a business, sharing with you that I have my doubts and my own insecurities just like everyone else)…and I’m working every day to be better, work harder, and to be more efficient…and most importantly…feel accomplished and successful. I want to know and trust that at the end of the day, I actually helped someone else to find that within themselves too.
So I’m calling it. It’s ok if you judge and it’s ok if you don’t like this or some of the things that I or anyone else posts on social media. More importantly, it’s ok if you judge or don’t like what other people do – because we all do it, we all have thoughts and opinions inside and some we share and some we don’t (thank gawd). I know in my heart of hearts that my judgements come from a place of insecurity or dissatisfaction within myself or my choices, which is exactly where yours come from too.
What’s most important is that I do it anyway, knowing that it just doesn’t matter. I’m still working my way through the book “You are a Badass” which I HIGHLY recommend, and I just read a chapter about “not giving a crap” about what other people think. One of my favorite parts so far talks about how feeling guilty for anything that we have done or feeling bad about something we’ve done incorrectly doesn’t make us a better person. Lightbulb.
Do you know how long deep down I really thought that if I felt guilty or bad about something that wasn’t of my best efforts or decision making, actually justified my behavior or made me “good” by feeling bad about it? I think somewhere throughout my childhood I created this false belief system …and I’m calling bullshit. Feeling guilty (according to this amazing book) does not make you better and only makes you sadder. I’m taking these consistent and in sync words that have all come at me in the last 24 hours as straight talk from the universe that I need to just put it out there.
I am going to share my work and teach and research and create and just not think about the judgements and any of the people who don’t like it. Sometimes you need to eat the frog. Sometimes you need to do it anyway. And sometimes you need to put your blinders on and just move forward.